Yup! I know the entry sounds a bit negative but trust me it’s not. Letting go is one of the hardest thing you need to do in life. It may looks like your giving up but you’re not. It just means that you are brave enough to accept that the friendship no longer brings any value to your life.
Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go
I won’t disclose any name(s) or details as to whom I am referring to. I just want to share why I decided to let go a friendship that meant a lot to me in the beginning.
I read a blog weeks ago, sometimes we hold on to people purely based on how long we’ve known them. We stay on a relationship because we are scared to be alone once we let them go. But I learned that as we grow older we need to surround ourselves with people who brings significance to our lives.
And here are the reasons I let go:
- I am expected to sacrifice my personal values and change into someone I’m really not
- Because we simply don’t see eye to eye anymore
- Not literally. It means that we are not on the same wavelength anymore, we like different things and priorities now
- The friendship isn’t bringing me what I want and need
- Not materialistically.
So as a note to myself, letting go of a friendship is better that holding on to it, especially if the friendship is exhausting you or it doesn’t make you a better person.
I’m not saying that it isn’t my fault that the friendship failed or ended. I just want something that will grow with me as we mature. I am not expecting anyone to agree on this decision, but sometimes you really have to. We are meant to meet people that really wants to be in our life. People who will make you feel great when you did a good job, help you be better in times that you need to improve and be there for you when you need support.
I took a deep breath and I let it go
Aww. Means a lot
I agree, i have this one which is a negative person to the extent that she is thinking of having a suicide. I, as a friend comforts her and assure her that I will be always there for her when she needs me. But as time goes, it’s always the same drama. She is not helping herself anymore but feeds on our sympathy and became dependent of
our presence to make herself feel good. When I try to become honest with her, she just takes it personally and gets mad at me. She is not moving forward. I became exhausted and decided to give her space. I know that she knows it. That’s my way of letting her go, not attending to her needs everytime she needs it. We still have reunion and even things has changed we’re still friends. After a few years, I can see that she is trying to build herself up independently. I’m proud that she realizes that, only her can help helself, not her friends.